Tanner Holm The Archetypal Father

What a week, eh? I don't know about you guys, but it was a rough one. Hopefully you survived it, had some good food and a chance to get stronger and spend time with the kids.

And as always, if you need someone to talk to, reach out to me, I'm sometimes slow but will respond, cross my heart.

Or jump into our discord and chat with us there, all dads welcome.

Fall term at a stuffy boarding school — sweaters, stone buildings, leaves everywhere. It's basically September in movie form. Everybody remembers Keating standing on the desk and the whole carpe diem thing. But watch it again as a dad (I did recently, and hoo boy) and you'll find yourself watching Neil's father instead. The man provides, plans, sacrifices — and somehow never once actually listens to his kid.

The lesson: Mr. Perry was clearly a bad-guy type when I was a kid, but as a Dad I can empathize with him — giving your child a good future is by far the highest reward a father can seek out. Sometimes we just don't understand what a "good future" means, I think. Seizing the day is important, but balancing that with helping them avoid pitfalls and being ready for when reality is going to slap them across the face is a really fine line to walk. So…good luck guys, ha. Take some time to actually listen to your kiddos so you can help build a future for them they'll actually want to live in.